(Please note that this entry was written during a time when the site now called Chadzworld was called Chadzboyz. For any Queer youth finding it difficult to overcome some personal obstacles I emplore you to check out the following site and get some of the help and friends which you deserve)
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During your time on our great planet called Earth, you might ask yourself the following question: why should I join the chadz LGBT Teen (although we welcome all ages, assuming everyone gets along well with each other) Support Forum? The answers are many, and during the course of our journey together I shall illuminate them for you.
Community
Here on chadz you will find a community unlike any other. This is a community built from the ground up with caring individuals; with people who honestly about you as a person, and not just a “poster.”
Most recently I underwent a period of short, yet extreme, depression. This was triggered from my less than stellar experience at a local Gay Pride Prom; I had discovered that I was among the very few real singles there. I watched as all the other participants became tender with one another, and greeted each other in groups. Most came with their partners, and those who didn’t, came with a group thereby making things very awkward if you wanted to talk with someone. Everyone knew each other and was happy, while I remained alone.
I walked away from that dance more depressed than I had been in months; I fumed and raged prior to slipping down deep into the pits of misery. Yet, there were those who cared. Those who decided to go above and beyond the call of duty in assisting me in feeling better.
When I had “fumed” I had posted my feelings of sorrow onto a frequently visited thread known as the “Vent Thread” within the “Advice Couch forum (a great place to go if you need help). I wasn’t expecting a response, yet someone cared enough to attempt to cheer me up. What followed was several days of messages filled with hugs and consolatory gestures.
The affection this young man showed me is by no means uncommon behavior. Everyday people here lift one another up. This is a forum of people, not posters; this is a community.
Diversity
Here on chadz, we have a unique cast of characters to meet everyone’s needs. Whether its political, hobby related or any other craft you can imagine, we have ‘em! Chadz has people from many different walks of life, and many, if not all of them, would be more than glad to share their experiences with you (if you only joined that is!).
While currently Chadz is a bit lacking in female members, this is something which we are aiming to correct. Within our newest site version we have feminine pictures for our lesbian members, and have been increasing the amount of attention given to issues of the womanly gender. However, the only thing which will really allow the lesbian community fly is by strong, proud young woman (perhaps much like yourself?) from enlisting in our army of diversity!
This is the same situation which we have found our transgendered brethren and sistern in. However, while shorthanded right now on great people like these, you can assist us in turning chadzboyz into a place where all are included just by joining and sticking around to help your future comrades when they inevitably join. After all, everyone needs a welcoming committee and I believe you would make a fantastic one!
Safe Place
I am proudly able to say that you will find no other place on the internet that is safer than Chadz GLBT Teen support forum! Don’t take my word for it though, just see what our embers have to say!
Chadz has provided a safe haven for me. This site is where I can go and know that nobody is going to tease or bully me (like what happens on other sites). Everybody is nice and helpful. Being in the coming out process requires a ton of support which Chadz has helped with.
Quite the endorsement, eh? You see, here on Chadz the majority of our members are young people just like you. Some are locked in “the closet,” while others are prancing around free. Some have life partners, while many still search. We know and understand your life, so we know where you are coming from. Here we understand the feeling you get when a boy you liked has offhandedly mentioned his girlfriend, or when a “butchy” lady comments on a man’s “appendage” in a very heterosexual way. We feel your depression and pain, because we have been there ourselves. Never will you hear, or suffer, degenerating words of hate or shame. We love each other here and that’s the way Its always been.
Fun
However, not all is serious on Chadz, for we also know how to have fun! There is so much joking and good times that you would need a planet sized box to fit even a small portion of the total joy. In the words of one member who has been here for years, “…there are some absolutely hilarious comments, topics and threads which never cease to amuse me.” A small taste of the total hilarity.
Within this little community of ours we have what we call the “Fun House” forum. This is the location where much of our good times take place. Game threads, such as “The Story Line Game” and “The Word Challenge Thread, are abound in this area and I can almost guarantee that you will find something that will make you laugh till milk shoots out of your nose (whether or not you are actually drinking milk!). Then we have the Culture Scene forum where any full member can post their literary works (such as poems and short stories), discuss current books and authors, and other mind provoking topics of concern to the world of books. Following this is the “Show Time” forum where one can talk about movies, actors and anything related to the world of films.
Support
You might have already guessed so, but we are big on supporting one another. As previously stated we care about each other in the way only a community can.
However, sometimes we need more than the kindness of a single soul. Sometimes we need the whole of the community to help us out. On Chadz you will find two support forums: “Advice couch” and I “Need Help Now.”
The Advice Couch forum is for moderate problems or questions. Minor things such as what to wear to a dance, whether or not a boy likes me and so forth are usually the order of the day, but this depends entirely on what your outlook is. If you think its minor than it goes here, but if you believe it is major than feel free to use the other forum.
The I Need Help Now forum is intended for more serious problems. Depression, suicide, homelessness and so forth are the types of situations encountered here.
You are free to use both forums as much as you need to. When you post your query will be answered as soon as humanly possible by one of our members. But wait, the help doesn’t stop there! Here on Chadz we also employ a crack team of advice givers we call CAT (Chadz Advice Team). All’s you have to do is send them a message to a member with a bold Pink username and they will reply with their advice when they are able to (usually this process is very quick, a couple days at the most).
And again! More to come! Chadz also has a forum called “Your Health,” an area where you can post your questions about sex, masturbation, STD’s and other diseases, proper condom use and any other questions you might have. If it is related to your body in any way, this is the place to go!
Remember, our members will go to any lengths to help you, just listen to these brave individuals speak….
“I enjoy helping the members here at chadz, because of the good things this site has done for me. I get a good feeling from helping out the guys, and in return there is always someone to chat to when I have issues or need to talk things through :)”
And…
“Well I’ve been here since 04, and the one things I’ve seen is I’m nowhere near as alone as I thought. I met some great people, gained the confidence to come out.”
And…
“Basically it’s helped me to meet others who understand my situation and don’t judge me for it. It’s good to have somebody sympathetic to talk to once in a while. Other sites I’ve tried seem only interested in compatibility with other members and what your personal preferences are, and people seem really judgmental. Definitely not that way here.”
How much more convincing do you need in order to join our community? More?! Well, don’t worry, because I have more!
Intellectual Debate
Perhaps you are an intellectual who is looking for a mentally challenging debate? Well, look no further!
Chadz is home to two major hubs of discussion. The first is “World Events” where anyone can debate the happenings of the world and their personal political beliefs. In short, this is the location to discuss all the news stories you hear about in the media. After all, sharing your opinion is as American as apple pie, right?
The second forum is known as “World Religions,” where topics concerning spirituality are placed. Anything related to the supernatural as its place here. Religions, cults, gods, atheism and more reside here. Join now and engage others in a heated, but respectful, debate concerning the spirit (or lack, therefore). One member said the following about the world religions forum,”.. .but it’s absolutely true. I’ve actually grown in mt atheism as a result of the world religions forum :-bd Again that is true. And it’s my number reason to thank Chadz.” A great and a half to be sure, find yourself through debate!
However, Chadz LGBT Teen Support forum is all about mutual aid on the religious bigotry of the zealot. Within the reliions forum you will find several threads whose main purpose is to help, as a Christian, understand that the Bible doesn’t condemn homosexuals. To further illuminate check out the threads here, go to the support section of the website, or just send our resident religious scholar NewMorning a visit. He would be more than glad to answer any queries you have concerning homosexuality and the bible.
While much of our content in religion has to do with Christianity, this doesn’t mean we do not have the time of day for Judaism, Islam, or Buddhism/Hinduism. Rather, it simply means that we have a lack of those that adhere to those particular faiths. If you happen to have knowledge on the true meaning of these religions, and are able to interpret them in a fashion that reveals they do not condemn same-sex attractions, than please get your topic up for others to read! We strive to include all in our community, so please share and hang around for potential brothers and sisters.
Friendship
I cannot even begin to describe all the ways in which the Chadz LGBT support forum has helped and given me friends. Here on Chadz, our members are looking for others like you to talk and hang with; they want to share their life with you and be there when things get bad. One member said,” Further more, Chadz is a great place for friends. I’ve finally made gay friends thanks to Chadz. Chadzboyz has successfully created an accepting community which I feel a part of which mean so much to someone who doesn’t exactly fit in at school or home.” Remind you of you?
I myself have made dozens of friends while cruising around the forum and I can safely say the friends I made here have been my greatest safety net; strong and thick as the day is long these people’s words and companionship are. Trust me when I say that you will meet people here that you will remember, and perhaps even communicate with, for life. Who knows, maybe even your soul mate is here waiting?
Well, there you have it! A great deal of the reasons to join us and our wonderful community! So, what are you waiting for?! Click on the “FORUM” buttom in the upper right-hand part of the screen and sign up; start on your career to online happiness!
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